We develop these beliefs from the pressure of our communities and society as a whole, the experiences with our own parents, and through the expectations of friends, family, and media. So difficult, in fact, that anxiety, depression, and overwhelming emotion can latch on like crazy to our new identity. I want to share a brief story with you about a mom who I saw in my office this summer. This mom has given me permission to share her process around the topic of being a good mother , because it gives such a clear example of the ways in which perfectionist thinking and unachievable expectations can lead to distress. She was attractive, articulate, and also very scared by the unpleasant thoughts and anxieties she had been feeling since her baby was born.
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Caught at the end of my freshman year of college, I am no stranger to the question everyone asks. The one thrown across the dinner table with family on thanksgiving. The one handed out to every student who is not employed yet. If I had a nickel for every time someone asked, well, I would have a lot of nickels.
What kind of mom do you want to be?
By now you've probably heard that toxic people in your life can stress you out, and hold you back. Sometimes these toxic people can be friends, or even parents. In the case of parents, specifically moms, experts say issues like these are due to their own mother's shortcomings, or a mental health issue like borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder — both of which can create a toxic environment to grow up in. But sometimes, toxicity can be due to your mom's immaturity, more than anything else. If your mom is immature , her childish tendencies have probably affected your relationship in a variety of ways.
I awoke on a Saturday morning to the same dream I always have. I would go up to my mommy with my thumb in my mouth while she's sitting with my aunt who is changing my cousins wet pull up from the night before. I would watch as she slowly rips the princess pull-ups sides off and takes a wet wipe and wipe the remaining pee off her.